Keep your interfering nose out of my lipstick choices darling

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Very few things make me quite as angry as people who claim to know better than me how I should dress myself.  For further evidence of my dislike of being told what to wear see here, here, here, here, here and here. If you are an intelligent and socially aware adult human being you should left alone to wear something that you feel is appropriate to work, unless you are required to wear a branded uniform.

Yet time and again professional woman are being told what to wear most usually by other professional woman.

Accordingly this article in the  Sun-Herald Sydney has pressed all my ranty buttons this morning when I should be hanging with my children and celebrating Mother’s Day.

A style consultant called Alex Frampton has been hired by a number of big city professional firms to ‘present style advice that they were too afraid to give to employees’.

This advice includes:

– you are not going to be promoted or taken to a client meeting if you are wearing a mini skirt or if your boobs are on show

– wear a suit every day including a skirt, stockings, a belt and lipstick.

Funnily enough Ms Frampton appears to have her own boobs well and truly out for her profile on style counsel site The Lives of  a Woman.

Why is it that every woman on the planet seems to have such a strong opinion about what other women should wear?

Will there ever be a stage where we can look at another woman wearing something that we don’t personally like and say – hey, she’s happy – and smile for her?

While writing this the Minx has drawn in lipstick all over the laundry walls. I could give a toss. If I wear lipstick and kiss my children I stick to their hair. I’d rather kiss them so I don’t.

As many of you know I am a lawyer in recovery or rehabilitation (per Kate Carruthers). Accordingly it is with some relief and a  fair bit of fatigued surprise to read that the silent dress code police are alive and well and picking on women in the legal profession.

My thoughts on dress code bullies have been documented elsewhere in the past in relation to:

Female Politicians

Women over 40

as well as female lawyers.

In an age when people send out formal letters by text incorporating phrases like ‘How u going?’ I find it incredible that folk in the legal profession consider that their time is well spent peering at heel heights, hem lengths and hair colours.

Perhaps this is one of the reasons why law firms are losing out on work?  The traditions and standards of dress that were once so respected are perhaps now seen as anachronisms of an elitist age.

 

Amicae Curiae

The Culture of Professional Dressing 

There’s been a lot of talk on this blog here and here amongst others, of women’s (and some men’s) experiences as legal practitioners, in terms of what to wear.  We could ask why these posts are so popular with readers.  Is it because women love clothes?  (I mean – you know what women are like, right?)  Perhaps.  However I have another theory.

It’s about culture – in particular, the dominant culture of the law. Read on.

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